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This program delves into the complexities and nuances of non-monogamous relationships, providing a robust framework for therapists to approach these dynamics with sensitivity, empathy, and competence. Expand your skills, improve client outcomes, and make a positive impact. "Working with Non-monogamy in Therapy" is a comprehensive, self-paced program designed specifically for therapists and mental health professionals who wish to deepen their understanding and enhance their skills in supporting clients exploring or practicing non-monogamy. All previous participants on this course have said that they feel more confident working with non-monogamy after completing the course, as well as, that they would recommend this course to colleagues. The self-paced course features text-based content, reflection questions, quizzes for certification, and feedback questionnaires to enhance your confidence and skills in supporting clients in a non-monogamous context. Sections covered: Types of relationships that fall under the non-monogamy (multiamory) umbrella Challenging assumptions, stigmas, and myths Themes in the work Intersectionality Ways of working with clients Takeaways 4 hours of informal CPD logging for most Professional Membership Bodies. The "badge" for starting and completing the course is an online profile badge. All membership data is stored on Wix. Check their privacy policy for details - https://www.wix.com/about/privacy

This is a guide for anyone wanting to know more about non-monogamy and how to navigate relationships. If you are a trainee or qualified therapist, this can be used as a taster for my "Working with Non-monogamous Clients" Course. Whether you're curious about non-monogamy or a therapist looking to enhance your practice, this course offers valuable knowledge. Delve into topics like different relationship types, self-identity, considerations, and pitfalls to avoid. The self-paced online learning format includes text-based content, reflective question, and a feedback questionnaire. Join me on this enlightening journey to deepen your understanding of non-monogamous relationships and improve your relationship navigation skills. All membership data is stored on Wix. Check their privacy policy for details - https://www.wix.com/about/privacy The full PDF download is available at the end of the click through "course" as well as being sent a £10 off the CPD course.

What is good enough? This is a question that is so hard to answer for so many people when they don't feel good enough, but yet they don't know what good enough actually looks like. This is especially true for those of us who battle perfectionism, scared of failing, or feel like we need to prove ourselves to others. We can replace the good with so many things and this narrative is still similar: I'm not good enough I'm not queer enough I'm not sexual enough I'm not Black enough I'm not smart enough I'm not monogamous enough I'm not ill enough for support or healthy enough to work It is an overall sense that we aren't meeting someone's expectations. At some point in our life we have internalised this and start to believe that we're not good enough and it can start to impact our lives and the actions we take by reducing ourselves down, berating ourselves, not going to events because we don't feel we'll fit in etc. It can start to impact how we see ourselves, our sense of worth in the world, how we feel others might perceive us, and our self-esteem. It can become a really insidious core belief about ourself, even though "good enough" can be such a subjective concept. The Skewed View: There are many reasons as to why you may slip into this distorted way of thinking and striving for perfection, feeling like nothing you do is "good enough". Somehow we get it twisted that good enough is this unattainable ultimate goal but actually it's really not that at all. I felt this way in my private practice until my supervisor blew my mind with where good enough actually falls on a scale of "bad" to "perfect". Logically I knew this, but thinking about it in this way really helped me see just *how much* pressure and unrealistic expectations I was putting on myself - yet I would never expect that from others either! This skewed perfectionism & "good enough" mindset can come out in so many areas of life: family, friendships, relationships, values, morals, work, behaviours, standards, expectations, finances, health, productivity, housework, etc. Challenging that narrative: When we're born we don't have all of the stigma and societal expectations innate in our minds. These ways of thinking come from somewhere whether it's parents, peers, siblings, wider family, media, etc. I've seen someone say asking the question "where did I learn this narrative?" to be a good challenge moments when we're not feeling good enough or we're being overly critical of ourselves. Alternatively we can ask ourselves "who's voice does this remind me of?" to explore where this thought is coming from in our lives. We could also challenge it by asking "good enough according to who?" who are we trying to be good enough for, and why? Sometimes it can feel like an all or nothing situation of either I'm good enough or I'm nothing. This is still in the skewed view as above, as realistically good enough is the middle ground!! So challenging this of, well what is the minimum needed of me? Comparison can also play a part in finding the middle ground. We often compare ourselves to ideals or people which we feel are out of our reach, "they're so much better than I am" (whether true or not!). What would it be like to compare yourself to someone (real or not) who is not as "good" as us in this situation? This isn't a challenge that always works but for example, when looking at not feeling "queer enough" and comparing ourselves to people who run Pride events and are completely out with their identity we can feel like we're not doing enough to call ourself a part of the community - aside from the many variables that play into why we might not be as out there with our identity - this doesn't mean you're not "queer enough". I would argue that anything outside of being the straightest person on the fluidity scale is queer enough! Being any amount of queer is enough! This goes for any identity of religion, spirituality, race, gender, relationship type, etc. Reminding yourself that everyone has to start somewhere can also be a good way of grounding this thought and challenging the belief. So, you might not be where you want to be, but it doesn't necessarily mean you can't get there. Everyone starts somewhere, it doesn't mean the starting point is your end point though. This can also work around not feeling good enough with skills based situations. Try adding "yet" or "right now" to the end of the thought - I'm not where I want to be....yet. The biggest thing. Being compassionate with yourself and remembering you're just one human! As much as we may want to be, you're not going to be the best at absolutely everything and never make any mistakes. You are enough as you are! You don't have to prove yourself to anyone but yourself. Of course, there is a lot of nuance around all of these challenges as it can be so specific in certain situations. It can be really challenging in places like work where you have targets and expectations to meet, for example, as this can feel so tangible and real adding to the pressure we're already feeling. If you do have situations where this is coming up for you and you feel it is impacting your life, it can be worth checking out therapy so that you can explore it deeper and hopefully learn a new narrative that doesn't feel as stifling. So, let's think about that question again - what is good enough? Do you have an answer yet? Want therapy with me, check out my availability here -

Pacing wasn't something I was too aware of in the time of my life before my chronic illnesses kicked in to the degree they're at now. Before then I was overloading my plate and getting away with it, with only occasional breaks needed. However as I have gotten older and with my chronic illnesses developing - or I guess actually being more in tune with my body to notice my needs more! - pacing is something that is very much needed. EDIT: After writing this a while ago, I've become more aware of how amazing pacing can be in theory for managing health and wellbeing but in practicality it doesn't always work out. To do pacing "fully" it would mean being able to control every aspect of your life which isn't something any of us can do when we have responsibilities and live in the society we do....... And so, this post is to be informative on how pacing can work, how you might implement it in areas of your life, but unfortunately it isn't a solution that works in every area of life for everyone. It's also worth having the resource of ACAS for looking into your rights with working. Absolutely look at an occupational therapist if you're struggling with your health and work. Boom - Bust cycle The boom bust cycle actually comes from economics (Karl Marx) however it has now been applied to psychology and how we can live as humans. made via paint How I explain the boom-bust cycle is in terms of our energy levels and capacity, though this can then go deeper into pressures & expectations on ourselves. As the graph shows, when we have capacity/energy - a "good day" - we might feel the need to get as much done as possible. But then we'll hit a peak as we've exceeded our max capacity - this might be a pain flare up, condition flare up, mental health dip, migraine, etc. - and we then end up on a drop into the bust part of the cycle where we have no energy/capacity to do anything. Then after resting & recovering, the cycle repeats as we feel the need to catch up on the 'bad days' we've just had. The time that this cycle last might be different for everyone. It may be as volatile as every day, waking up with energy to do some tasks, overdoing it, and then needing to crash for the rest of the day. It may be that it's a monthly cycle. or a yearly cycle.... it will be individual to you. Have a think back to your last week/few months/year - does this sound familiar? So, what is "pacing"? Pacing is a process in understanding what your capacity is and working out a way to slow down so your capacity isn't overloaded. This can be done in many different ways and in a society where 'hustle culture', perfectionism, and comparing ourselves to others is rife, it can be hard to refocus purely on your own way of living and finding your own equilibrium within it all. This can be done in different ways in a process: Some people find spoon theory to be useful in understanding what their capacity is. this will be a process of working out how many spoons you actually have (make your best guess) and then how much each task takes. You might start with 12 spoons and categorise tasks into whether they use 1 spoon, 2 spoons, 3 spoons etc. Some people find timing events/tasks to see what you can manage before being at max capacity is useful. Similarly to above, this is categorising tasks, however it will be into time taken categories rather than energy used. Generally it is a good idea to pick one task to start with e.g. going for a walk. From here you would do what felt manageable being really mindful of how you're feeling before, during, and after. You would time the walk and do this each time you went for a walk in the week. Then look at the average time from the week as this will be your 'pacing time' i.e. the time that is manageable for this task. Some people might try a calendar approach by starting off with minimal tasks and building up to find their sustainable amount of events in a day/week before hitting capacity. Others might go about it in a more trial and error way. For me, personally, I looked at areas of my life and working them out in a layered way. E.g. my first priority has been work capacity. This involved working out how many clients felt manageable in a day, as well as spacing them out throughout the day for rest in between. I did this so I was under capacity, as then I've been able to layer on different areas of life like socialising, home life, looking after my dogs, housework etc. (I recognise here that I am really privileged to be able to do this with my work and have freedoms that others do not. If work isn't something that can be done in such a flexible way it's always worth looking into whether an occupational therapist visit is possible to help put reasonable adjustments in place at work.) Depending on what's going on for you, the absoluteness of how far you go with the process will be up to you. For some learning their capacity for different tasks down to brushing teeth, getting out of bed, getting dressed, showers, etc. is needed as their max capacity might be a lot lower than expected and so even the 'smallest' of tasks will take energy to a greater extent. For others capacity might be at a higher capacity and so figuring out tasks won't need to be as absolute but might be more to an extent of physical tasks taking energy e.g. housework, travelling, exercise, or mental energy e.g. reading, learning, work, or emotional e.g. social events, messaging, phone calls, etc. Or you might need to work out your capacity for a mixture of some/all of these things. It might also be that your capacity changes over time with the amount of support you have around you, with life events out of your control, with treatment options you might have. With this in mind, pacing is a fluid process which needs to have check ins with yourself and where you're at to adapt to where you are in that moment. Using a "Timetable" I was first introduced to pacing when I had CBT for pain management. The process here was to identify different tasks I fill my days with/or want to fill my days with. First off, we separated the tasks into enjoyable tasks (tasks we choose to do for pleasure), routine tasks (tasks we do daily/weekly) and necessary tasks (tasks that have to be done otherwise there is a negative consequence). Once you have these lists sorted, you would then colour code these tasks into Easy (green - tasks that don't take up much energy), Medium (yellow - tasks that are doable but take some energy), Hard (red - tasks that take a lot of energy). Then you look at sprinkling these tasks across your weekly timetable, with a mixture of enjoyable, routine, and necessary, as well as easy, medium, hard being mixed up. You would then review how you feel each day and for the week overall to look at any amendments that might need to be made. Picture below as a brief example: Made in Google Sheets The cognitive change to pacing It is one thing planning and prepping how you are going to pace yourself to try and even out the boom bust cycle, but putting it into practice when you've been used to going 'full speed ahead' is difficult - it's something I still have to work on and monitor daily! We might have narratives we have grown up with - "get on with it", "keep going", "man up", "stop being so flaky"... this list goes on. Putting a schedule in place doesn't remove those narratives and so some internal work is also needed, to be able to sit with those thoughts, acknowledge the feelings that might come up alongside them, and find a way to work through them to acceptance. My BIGGEST mindset challenge has been with exercise. I have always been someone who does so many different types of exercising, I get such enjoyment, empowerment, and release from exercise, but unfortunately all the types of exercising I used to love aren't accessible to me anymore. This was a huge hit for me, it took a lot to accept this, and some days I still mourn the fact that I might never be able to do them again. So, to face a day of resting because I am depleted of energy/spoons is hard when my mind is bringing thoughts like "lets do something!!!" which I would love to do. Therapy is helping, and has helped, me get through this. It is true that we grieve our old selves, our 'healthy' selves, to then look forward at what we can do now with what's accessible for us. This is a big process in itself, so please don't be hard on yourself if you still have moments of slipping back into the boom-bust cycle, it happens, but take each day as it comes and offer yourself compassion. Whilst you're building your pacing timetable or getting an idea of how much energy different tasks use, be mindful on what's coming up for you and any thoughts that follow too. Maybe you get caught up in the moment because it feels good to be doing something you enjoy, or you just want to feel 'normal' again, or you don't want to 'fail yourself' by doing less than you would have done before. Those thoughts are important to recognise so you can explore them and work through them. Is pacing giving up on myself? I had this fear. That slowing down so much would mean I was giving up on myself, when in reality you are being compassionate and offering yourself support where you're struggling. A boom-bust cycle is only sustainable for so long before burn out or your body catches up to you. Pacing is a proactive way to look after yourself in the long run. It might feel like giving up because of the ableism in our society, but accepting you need to take more time for yourself isn't a failure, it's a success in looking after yourself. Of course, there will be extremes on the opposite end of getting into thoughts where everything feels too hard to do, in these instances it is about using pacing to increase your activity levels in a controlled way. This might be starting with 1 minute of stretches a day for a week, then going up to 2 minutes for a week until you get to 15 minutes. Recommendations: Get some support in place for yourself through this process as it can be mentally and emotionally draining Take your time. My need to have things done and in place tried to take over with pacing; ironically, pacing the process when looking at pacing your life is needed. Therapy helped me with having someone guide me through it, challenge my thought patterns, explore the feelings, and look forward at what I had already done for myself (you'd be surprised how much this last bit gets overlooked). Explain what you are doing to those around you - obviously where you feel comfortable to - but it can be helpful so others are on the same page with you. You can still have fun, this process isn't meant to strip the joy from life, rather it's meant to help you find a way to live life to YOUR fullest, meeting you where you're at with your needs and health. i.e. I've learnt that if I want to go to a gig, or have a social day, I probably need to take some time to myself to allow rest and regrouping afterwards. The takeaways: Understand what pacing means for you - spoon theory? timings? energy ratings? capacity? etc. Figure out how pacing can work for you in your timetable Be mindful of your thought processes and narratives that come up for you in the process Try to offer yourself compassion in the process - it's not easy! Pacing is proactive and can be used to increase activity in a controlled way over time. You're allowed to take time for yourself. Resting and restoring your energy and wellbeing is important, as are you! Image from Unsplash via Wix

What is Intersectionality? How Assumptions play into the work? So how do we work with Intersectionality in Therapy? As the therapist As the client What is Intersectionality? The Oxford Dictionary definition is, “the interconnected nature of ,social categorisations such as race, class, and gender, regarded as creating overlapping and interdependent systems of discrimination or disadvantage”. It was originally applied to women's rights and the feminist movement to be able to acknowledge that whilst they were fighting for women's rights different intersections would be fighting from a different place which may be disadvantaged and how this then has an impact on their experience of being a woman from their intersections lens, e.g. a trans woman's experience fighting for  women's rights and their experience of  women's rights will be different to a cis woman's experience. In terms of how this fits into therapy, it's important to recognise that whilst parts of ourselves don't define us, they do have an impact and can be linked to create our individual experience of oppression and disadvantage. Essentially, meet the client where they are and recognise where they've come from. Our intersections add layers on to who we are and how we are treated in the world. They are the makeup of our experiences; they could be drawn out as a Venn Diagram: Taken From - https://www.tidalequality.com/blog/a-venn-diagram-of-belonging-where-identities-equity-and-inclusion-intersect But everyone's Venn Diagram of their own intersections and how they relate to them will look different. For example - My experience as a woman will be different to a trans woman's experience, or to a woman who has no illnesses, or who is a person of colour, but being a woman will have an impact for each of us in different ways in making up our experience of the world. How Assumptions play into the work? Assumptions are so important as a therapist as we can't assume to know the clients experience without them telling us! Vice Versa a client might project on to you if you have a similar intersection e.g. chronic illness that you have experienced the same kind of things that they have. If we don't address the assumption on either end, it can lead to misunderstandings and as therapists not meeting the client where they're actually at. E.g my fibro diagnosis process was horrible, took longer than it needed, lots of dismissal, and eventually going private. However, I know other people who have been diagnosed in their first appointment with their GP! We both have a diagnosis of fibro but our experiences of diagnosis were so different. So how might we work with Intersectionality in Therapy? As the therapist: Think about your own experience and get familiar with it This can be especially important when working with clients with similar intersections to us as we may notice something trigger inside us or emotions come up that are our own. We need to try and be aware of these moments so we can either: put a name to our own stuff and use it in the session (where relevant) - e.g. sometimes if a client tells me they were dismissed by GPs it brings up anger in me which is from my own stuff but I also wonder if it's theirs too, so naming "I'm feeling angry, I know some of this is my own but I'm wondering if that's coming up for you too?" Or we need to be able to put it to the side so we can refocus on what's going on for the client in front of us. Look into your unconscious biases and how these might come into play when working with people with similar or different experiences in life to you Harvard have a great research study going on with this where you can complete their unconscious bias tests to see what stands out for you - https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html Notice your privilege - e.g. I am chronically ill, queer, and suspected ND, but I am also a cis woman, white, and stable financially which give me a lot of privilege which needs to be acknowledged. This is also true when looking at how privileged intersections have played a part in oppressing many. Sometimes it is good to have these conversations in therapy with clients. e.g. if you're white and you have a global majority client, it can be useful to have a conversation around your privilege, safety, being culturally aware, validating lived experience, and (especially) asking questions before making assumptions. As the client: Think about what you want from a therapist: It can be great to know that a therapist who is also queer might have more of an understanding of the queer scene, dating, body acceptance, etc. but it is also important to remember that whilst they might get it on a closer level to most - your experience is yours and this is what they'll focus on. Think about what you need to feel safe in therapy. If someone of a certain gender, sexuality, race, religion etc. would make you feel more comfortable due to the familiarity, absolutely look for that. When finding a therapist think about what is important for you in this regard and any questions you may want to ask. Maybe you want someone who's had a completely different experience to life than you so that they can really challenge your perspective. You do not/should not have to teach your therapist! Sometimes it can be good to correct your therapist if they've made an assumption or they've got something wrong - it happens - but this shouldn't be a thing that is repeated where you end up educating them more than you actually get from the sessions. Don't be afraid to correct your therapist, especially if they've caused harm - but also if it's not comfortable to do this then don't risk your safety You can leave and find someone new if you feel consistently unsafe and worse after sessions. Remember privilege goes both ways. Sometimes a therapist may challenge you and if they're challenging you from a place of oppression and you get defensive, try to think why this might be? e.g. maybe your cis woman therapist challenges you a cis male client on the language and behaviours you use when discussing women. They may be challenging you from their lived experience of being on the other side of it. Difference between a challenge in therapy and an accusation? A challenge is trying to get you to look at things in a different way so generally it might be phrased in a way of "I wonder what it might look like if....", "I'm curious what approaching it like this might look like" whereas an accusation would be more of a statement of blame. Further Reading & Resources: Useful to know about and understand microaggressions - https://equality-diversity.ed.ac.uk/students/microaggressions/what-are-microaggressions A very generalised an quick test to look at privilege - https://www.idrlabs.com/intersectionalism/test.php https://www.womankind.org.uk/intersectionality-101-what-is-it-and-why-is-it-important/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11212199/

Explore therapy expectations with Emily Duffy, offering tailored, compassionate counseling for your needs. Therapy expectations matter. Check Availability How I work and Fees Email or Video/Phone Sessions How I work Approaches How do we start Fees How I work As an integrative/pluralistic therapist I adapt my way of working to your individual preferences in a collaborative and consent-led way. I believe you are the expert of yourself, and so, we will talk about what it is you would like to get out of counselling and look at ways we can do this; the approaches and methods used will be used to account for intersectionality, without pathologising you i.e. I work with YOU in a holistic way. My core way of working is co-creating a safe, compassionate, affirming, and non-judgemental space through person centred counselling and it's core conditions, which are to hold you with unconditional positive regard, empathy, and congruence. Safety is a big part of my work, and I will work with you to create a space you feel safe in and allow stability in exploring what you need to. This might mean using fidget toys, writing notes in sessions, turning the camera off if low on spoons, having a drink readily available etc. and it might mean looking at how the sessions are structured, i.e. whether we have a more structured format of this is what we'll look at each session, whether it's more open for whatever is on your mind that day, or maybe a mix! What approaches do you use? Gestalt - using metaphors, looking at the 'here & now' work, and somatic exploration/body work. Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT)/ Solution Focused Therapy (SFT) - using mindfulness techniques to explore our ways of thinking, looking at how this can be different, how this can then impact our behaviour/emotions, and how we can change our behaviour/ways of thinking to move forward. Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) & Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) - looking at our internal narrative, how we can be more compassionate and accepting to ourselves. **Note that I do not use every approach with every client. It will depend on what works for you and your preferences. Depending on what it is you're wanting to explore, how long we work together, and your preferences, will depend on the techniques used in our sessions. If you are considering short term work with myself then we will look at the most pressing issue you would like to focus on, whereas longer term work will allow more breadth of work. Check out my about me and qualifications if you'd like to know more on my experience. How do we start? In whichever scenario we will have a 45 minute session at a discounted price for an introductory consultation; this allows us to talk more about what you're looking to get from therapy sessions & how we might work together, to go through the counselling contract, for you to ask any questions you may have to check I'm the right therapist for you, and to assess if you would like to continue with myself going forward. All of my sessions are on a one-to-one basis, for residents of the UK only, and currently I am only offering remote sessions via Google Meet, Phone Call or Email. For more info on contracting, what to expect, the consultation process, and AI use, check out my FAQs and my blog How much are sessions? The initial consultation will be £30 for up to 45 minutes My guide fee for ongoing 50 minute sessions is £70 unless otherwise agreed*. *If you feel you are unable to afford this we can discuss low cost options in our consultation. How does low cost work? I work on a "pay what you can afford" basis where we will have an open and honest conversation about what is affordable for you and I will take your lead. This is agreed upon in good faith and without needing "evidence". If you don't feel able to commit to the same fee every week we can explore other options too. How I work Approaches How do we start Fees How do I know if email or video/phone is more suitable? Below are some questions which may help you assess whether email therapy is suitable for you. I feel comfortable reading and interpreting text I feel comfortable waiting on a response to questions I don't have much space to connect via video I have some specific things I want to work on I am comfortable writing about my feelings I feel uncomfortable verbalising what's going on I don't have a reliable internet connection I feel at risk of harming myself and need real time support I need flexibility in when I see my therapist Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Either, but email tends to be more directive Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Yes (Email) No (Video/Phone) Yes (Video/Phone) No (Email) Either, but email allows more flexibility If you're still unsure please do get in touch with me and we can talk through the options. I am open to starting off on one form of therapy with the potential to change to an alternative as the work progresses so you are not stuck in Email, Video, or Phone call from the off. Questions? Email or Video/Phone Sessions

Emily Duffy Therapy is a qualified integrative therapist/counsellor from in Waltham Cross, UK offering online counselling. My approach is GSRD affirming. Majority of my work revolves around identity and exploring who you are as a person. Check Availability Emily Duffy Therapy Online counselling for UK-based residents that is queer, neurodivergent, non-monogamous, and chronic illness affirming. If you’ve been navigating questions around your mental health, gender, sexuality, neurodivergence, relationship dynamics, or living with chronic illness — you’re not alone. I look to help you explore who you are and look at how you relate to the outside world. You might be here because: You're struggling with your mental health You're coming to terms with chronic illness & the changes it brings You're navigating non-monogamous relationship dynamics You're feeling isolated in your life You're wanting to understand your queerness or gender You're feeling neurodivergent overwhelm in a neurotypical world You want to improve your relationship with yourself All of the above... 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What can therapy do for me? - Work on ways of coping or managing - Look to reconnect with your sense of self and your body - Look to understand and be more in touch with your feelings and emotions - Give you a space to process difficult situations and look at how to move forward - Reframe your inner narrative and how you talk to yourself - Explore your behaviours and thought patterns to understand where they came from, reassess if they are still working for you, and how we can reframe them - Boost confidence in your identity and how you express yourself - Begin to notice what you want in life rather than just living in survival mode - Amongst other things... How starting this process with me works? Check availability - choose a time & book in - have the consultation with me to look at what you want out of sessions & ask any questions about how I work. You can then decide if I'm the right therapist for you and if you'd like to move forward with sessions. Want to know more, check out other pages of my site for more info: About Me My professional and lived experience in my areas of work Qualifications My qualifications and Professional Membership Body details How I work The ways in which we can work together Fees Details of my guide fee (£70) and low-cost options Resources Guides for Clients & Therapists in Private Practice Signposting A collection of websites for further support Courses Beginners guide & CPD around non-monogamy Blog Covers all kinds of topics related to mental health & therapy Home: Contact Still have questions? Check out my FAQs or contact me on the details below Email me at - info@emilyduffytherapy.co.uk Message me via WhatsApp or Signal- +44 (0)7508387585 Emily Duffy Therapy is located in Waltham Cross, Hertfordshire, England Leave a voicemail WhatsApp me Email me Signal me Check out my Instagram @emilyduffytherapy Load more

Meet Emily Duffy, integrative therapist specialising in queer, neurodivergent & chronic illness identity support. Accredited, lived‑ experience therapist working online UK. Check Availability About Me: About Me Emily Duffy (She/Her) MNCPS (accredited) Membership type: Accredited Membership number: NCS20-02120 My Story I am a multiamory/non-monogamy, queer, neurodivergent (ND), chronic illness, and body neutral therapist who has involvement in these communities. I’m Emily (she/her) — an integrative therapist on a mission to help people whose identities, relationships, or bodies don’t always fit the mainstream. With both lived experience and professional training, I understand what it’s like to feel unseen, misunderstood ,or excluded and I believe you deserve a space where you are seen, accepted, and valued. Since studying my A-level in Psychology, I have always had a curiosity with relationships and how we as humans interact with each other. As a queer, ambiamorous, suspected ND woman who has chronic illnesses, the curiosity was bolstered by my own experiences and hardships in life, therapy offered me a chance to work through things that I hadn't yet processed, to explore my identity, manage my "symptoms", and begin to look forward to my future. Life throws many surprises at us, and while we cannot predict the outcome of any situation, we can take control of how we respond to certain situations. I believe that we are the experts of our own lives and identities, and as your therapist I am here to understand, explore, and affirm who you are within our work. Over the past 6 years, I have worked with a range of clients in my Private Practice, The Mix, Grief Chat, and Humankind Charity, alongside 13 years of working in pastoral support roles for different education providers in FE and HE. I have also volunteered over my working life as a Listening Volunteer with the Samaritan's and as a Befriender with Age UK. I have continued my training since qualifying in topics such as Gender Diversity, Trauma, CBT for anxiety, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and supporting the bereaved, amongst others. Other qualifications & credentials are here. Want to know more? Check out how I work & fees. What I can help you with: My lived Experience = * My professional Experience = + Anxiety *+ Depression *+ Mental Health *+ Sexuality *+ Gender + Non-monogamy *+ Learning Self-Compassion & "Inner Narrative" Self-Talk *+ Chronic Illness & Disability *+ Neurodivergence + Bereavement, Grief, and Loss *+ N.B. Whilst I do not specialise in trauma work I have done training around working with trauma in an informed way and I embody this through all my work. Book in with me here (Video or Phone)

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